Think of your next steps like investing. If you go for the quick pay off here, you’re going to end up with nothing.
Every bit of time and effort you invest now in doing this slowly and carefully, will pay dividends for many years to come.
The veterans are totally right here. There’s a hell of a lot of personal development he needs to do before this is going to be okay. You need to tread carefully and slowly, and allow those things to be identified and acknowledged and repaired.
You need to cross back over the river from the divorce side to the marriage side. Currently, there’s a single strand of cotton as a bridge. Before you put too much weight on it, maybe build a strong bridge using concrete and steel.
And know that he has to do the majority of the building works himself. You can’t do it for him.
