Thanks for the feedback. I'm going to respond and post a more detailed update later, but for now I just want to share a huge development.
Wow. H said he wanted to talk again. So we did. And he says he doesn't want to D. We will not D. He realizes that he's been unstable though and is worried that he won't be able to change. We're going to talk more. I am not bringing up MC just yet. I want to give him the chance to bring it up himself.
He said a big turning point for him was late December, when I told him I'd be moving back to Country A. All the advice here on the importance of moving forward and GAL is spot on. He saw that I was going to live my life without him. In our (limited) interactions since then, he saw that I was doing great while he was miserable. It was amazing how much his words aligned with what we talk about here. He was unhappy and thought that not having me in his life would solve his problems. And then he realized the grass wasn't greener. He dated several people but couldn't forget about me. He was even more unhappy without me. He missed me constantly. He never stopped loving me. He regrets everything. He's so sorry.
I know there is a long road ahead. There's a lot to process. There are no guarantees. But I have a good feeling about this. He said a lot of things that showed me he's willing to do some hard work. Whatever happens, I know I am strong and that I will be awesome no matter what.
