Kind in terms of the function of me asking. If I'm honest, I think there is a little bit of me wanting him to see that I'm getting on with my life.
I get that. It’s completely normal.
But it’s also a total waste of time. WAS/WS will deliberately seek out validation that they’re doing the right thing, and ignore anything which suggests otherwise.
Next time you feel the need to try and show your H something, go and hit yourself over the head with a saucepan. Because it’s going to have the same effect.
Remember - he has to work this stuff out FOR HIMSELF. You can’t do it for him.
It’s like telling a kid not to lean back on a chair… it’s a repetitive waste of your time right up until they fall backwards and crack their head onto the concrete. Only when they work it out FOR THEMSELVES will they stop tipping their chair back. They’re literally like belligerent, know-it-all teenagers who can’t be told a thing.
Next time you try and engineer an interaction with him or show him something - picture a big red stop sign. It’s useful imagery to change your behaviour.
