Starting my second thread. Didn't realize the other got so long.
To recap the last few days, H told me he wants to work it out. I asked if that meant he was done with his affair. He stated he was very torn and confused and while he knew the affair was wrong, he cares for her. He thinks it would be great to work things out with me, because we have a lot of good together, but he is afraid my changes are only temporary.
I reacted to all of this calmly, suggested we give each other a trial period but said that I didn't want the OW in the picture to mess up the trial. I also suggested he call the OW and let her know he was considering getting back together with me. I told him it was only fair, and frankly, part of me wondered how she might react to that.
So he called her last night and told her. When I got home fairly late at night I asked about it and he seemed upset. He said he would rather not talk about it right then. I take it she didn't take the news well.
I imagine he will tell me the results of that sometime today or tomorrow.
