Thanks again Bf, I understand the concepts of al-anon, and you have really helped me see that putting more focus around the program and the principles is where I need to be. I continue to balance program and saving my marriage when it is really the program that will drive the other. I have read so many books around spirituality and have grown immensely closer God through all this. I pray for removal of defects each day, but still continue to assert my will. I have trouble separating the disease from the person and my marriage/family. I’m glad I’ve had the growth I have and look forward to continued growth. I love transparent feedback and 2x4s, hence I wish we had a live option here lol. I truly want to be the best man I can be. My GAL activities have helped, but need to ramp those up as well. Please continue to post when you can These posts have been very helpful to me. Thank you,
These posts have been very helpful to me. 
