ever have one of those uh huh moments? the moment where a bunch of thoughts crash into your brain and you finally see clarity on something you been working on for so long?
i had one of those in the shower this morning, and seriously i couldn't contain myself until i sat down at this very moment - and now as i sit and write this, there is a sense of calm over my whole body that has not been there in i don't know how long
everything happens for a reason
thank you betsey for sharing all of your conversation with us that you had with k. it's because of your sharing that i did indeed have a uh huh moment
let me try to explain...
i thought hard about your interaction with k and then your posts here - telling us you didn't need the 2x4's - and frankly i didn't understand what you meant. i thought hard about your 'latitude in thinking'. i thought hard about you not needing patience. all of these particular things were not clicking. and then i thought about your comment 'k has already made a decision' - when i threw that into the mix it all became so clear
betsey - your right, you don't need 2x4's, you don't need patience. the one thing we all want from this is a decision - you have that. since you have that all you need is your latitude in thinking for k to get where he is gonna go. that will take time yes, but no longer are you in limbo for him to make a decision. he has made it - he has shown you by his actions (the old actions speak louder than words).
uh huh
my husband has made a decision. i see that now. actions do speak louder than words. he isn't going anywhere - i just need to have the latitude in thinking for him to get where he is gonna go. which i can see now where he is headed - no more limbo for me.
thank you betsey, i am rambling, but i think you understand where i am. i see it in my minds eye where you are, i just have a hard time putting it into words. i am there myself - no more anxiety. just a calm of knowing a decision has been made
