He is not willing to discuss or be clear about anything until we are in person, probably tomorrow night depending on the weather.
Until you are firmly into piecing, do not reveal your cards.
You should have a clearly defined list of non-negotiables. You do not share this list with H. He has to come up with them on his own. Most likely, it will come up short. You let him know "That is not good enough". You do not tell him which are good and which are not or which are missing. MAKE HIM WORK FOR YOU. Softly reject him. Be sexy and confident.
You should have a mind set that you are really enjoying your new freedom. You are not sure you want to take him back, but you are willing to listen. There is a fine art to this.
As far as talking in person, I would be gone. Dinner, or the movies or some other activity. Make him work for you.
When you do have R talk (which he initiates) , your job is to STFU, be present and listen and be skeptical of everything. Let him prove his words with his actions and behavior.
I wish you well. Do not let fear control you.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
