My wife says she is done

[Dats000]

We ended up agreeing tentatively on assets. If it financially makes sense my W will take the townhouse we rent out and I will keep the house. We still need to figure out how much of the townhouse is my non-marital asset. Every bigger property item was gone through and assigned to my wife or me. W letting me keep things she would never want without having to pay her (example home theater in basement) and I’m giving her the stuff she needs to fill her new leased house. My FIL went shopping with my W and kids to buy them new mattresses. My in laws are great. My W has my S13 new bed frame and dressers in the garage ☹️. W boxed up stuff from her night stand and our bathroom. I walked in the closet and saw the jewelry box I gave my W as an engagement gift gone. A parenting book left behind on the nightstand stand from over 8 years that I never read ☹️. I told my W last night that I don’t want to be there when she moves out on March 24. I also said that we need to ask the kids what they want to do that day. Do they want to stay and help or go with me.

We still do supper together, go to kid’s sports games together or meet there. Definitely an IHS, not fun. Forcing the kids to live in separate houses and breaking the family up for them [censored] but not having to live with a person that doesn’t wanna be with you anymore is gonna be nice. I’m still in touch with my in-law. I made my mother-in-law, chicken and dumplings after her hernia surgery brought it over there. We will plan to continue doing Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve together with in laws. As long as it makes sense to keep those kind of traditions going for the kids.

Finally told my Mom about our separation and my best friend. They were both very supportive. Lucky my friend lives close and we agreed to doing something at least once a month. I’m still walking getting my time to walk a mile 3 minutes faster than 4 months ago. My IC has been keeping me on track with my self esteem building and tweaking actions to becoming a better parent. Especially to my D11 who is going through some rough time with her emotions. Luckily my W is there for her too. My son still reading with me every night.

I truly believe that God brought me to this marriage saving site as a gift when I was weary and carrying the heavy burden of my W request for a divorce. This was his way of teaching me to deal with my pain and how how I found rest for my soul. If I didn’t act on reading DR and GAL, detaching, doing a 180 things wouldn’t have gotten better. I’m definitely not out of the woods, but definitely in a better place and definitely a better person. I also know my work in improving myself is something that I have to work on the rest of my life if I want to be the person I want to be.