It’s very normal to have a counsellor that doesn’t really float your boat. That’s okay!
Why not try another one? Most people take a few goes before they find a counsellor they click with.
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I haven't responded although the urge was great to message & deny
Great job. That could have been the final nail in the coffin. You have to be impenetrable and just shrug off his manipulation attempts. Cool, calm, collected. Always wait 24 hours before doing or saying anything!
You know what I’d do if I were you? I’d go buy some new clothes (something a bit different and more modern than you’d normally choose), plus a new perfume - and get your hair done.
GAL is a double edged sword - it can make them feel insecure like you’re moving on without them, PLUS you get to feel great about yourself after a long marriage where you have probably prioritised every one else.
MWD says it in her book over and over - build the mystery!
