Thanks for the encouragement Kind & R2C. I know I keep mentioning my mum, which is a bit embarrassing at my age but she did say similar. That he was obviously spooked by me going out and getting dressed up & she thought he'd taken the ring off in anger. I haven't responded although the urge was great to message & deny (plus mention him taking his ring off). I rang mum & posted here instead and am so glad I did! Feeling regulated again this morning so will try and eat.
Kind18 - I have a counsellor but they're a very different style to me & I don't feel they fully get it. They are just trying to emphasise why I'm better without him whereas I would like more help with managing my emotions. I think I may look to change to get a better fit.
Thank you vets for the words of encouragement & keeping me on the right track
