I'm really struggling with my emotions over the past week. I can't stop crying. I've just heard from D, who is out with her dad for dinner & he's taken his wedding ring off. She asked him and he said he thought I'd taken mine off when he saw me on Friday (he stayed with D whilst I went out). He'd commented on how nice I looked & questioned me about who I was out with and where I was going. He then said to D that "your mum was trying to wind me up making out that she was going in town with a man". I'd said no such thing, just that I was going out with a friend. I dont know what to do. I'm trying to keep going, take each day at a time, trying to keep busy and focus on what I want to do but my mind keeps dragging me back. I don't know how to keep moving forward. I read and re read the threads but just feel like I'm play acting. I'm still at work, which gives some structure to the day. My worst battle is reading worse case scenario into everything. Just had a cry to my mum, who said I need patience & time. She said that whatever happens isn't going to happen overnight & when it does, I'll be prepared and ready. Seems like a long way off. Sorry for the emotional rant
1. He has taken his ring off in front of daughter knowing she would tell you. He wants to see how you respond. Wants to double check his backup plan is safe. Don’t take his bait. He sounds like a man child.
2. You’re not going out with another man. He’s accusing you of going out with another man and desperately wants to know more. This is a good thing. He’s worried he might be losing you. I would do NOTHING to stop him thinking this. Nearly every LBS in this situation would message him swearing black and blue they aren’t seeing another man which is the WORST thing you can do. Then he knows he’s free to keep doing what he’s doing.
3. Kids are SMART. Daughter knows this is his choice to separate, not yours. Daughter knows you don’t have another man. Give your kids some credit!
4. Your weight loss is not healthy. Have you seen your doctor about this?
5. I get what you are saying about injuries, sounds like running won’t work. Have you tried a gym membership? Lifting weights will help improve your appetite and calm your emotions.
6. Your Mum sounds like a gem. Keep leaning on her. Have you thought about seeing a psychologist? They might be able to give you some strategies to help manage your day-to-day emotions, like mindfulness.
It’s all going to fine MA, you just can’t see it yet.
