Thanks DnJ, lots to think about in your posts. The processing occurring at different times with different emotions is an important one. I can see now I'm calm that my earlier angst was temporary after being hit with unexpected information. It's a ring! Just because he took it off doesn't mean he can't put it back on. My reaction was extreme at the time and I definitely need to practice STOP. I do this with clients I work with - Stop, Take a breath, Observe body, thoughts, feelings and emotions and Proceed with more awareness & without judgement. It's the noticing bit beforehand that will help stop me going down a rabbit hole.
Thanks again DnJ and Rockon for quick replies. I needed them today.
