Its bizarre how he makes whole situations up in his mind when the reality is I'm sat at home broken!
Realize, H has to. He absolutely will make up a narrative that places you in the role of “bad guy”. For he cannot handle being the one at fault. His journey is an emotional one, and it will be bereft of logic and reason.
H will have guilt and shame and regret, all of which he will run from. Blame you for. And so on. It will be bizarre. His journey, his behaviours, his expectations, will be bizarre.
You know this. You see it.
There is no point in trying to correct him, or his viewpoint. That will only lead to fighting. He simply, for the moment, cannot emotionally accept “being” wrong. So he won’t be.
And he will push your buttons to get a rise from you. A reaction from you, he will utilize as proof, as reason for why he is doing what he is. Don’t take the bait.
By the way, even if you don’t react he will make something up. The wedding ring and you seeing other men for example. It’s not true, yet it is to him. He’d fight tooth and nail that the sky is red, and no amount of explaining/arguing will dissuade him.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
