A great many ideas of divorce busting pertain to dealing with our emotionally distance spouse. And there is almost always a directed hurtful and disrespectful display from our spouse too.
Kids are usually collateral damage during bomb drop and its aftermath. And sometimes they are even targeted, not merely just within the blast radius, rather blasted directly.
Divorce busting encourages self control, realization of what one truly can control, and fosters accountability and self respect. Just a few of the tenets of DBing. Principles of life that kids certainly do benefit from.
A lot of situations the kids are still wanted by both parents. In some cases kids are weaponized and become pawns in a battle they want nothing to do with. And in some cases, like my own, kids are “divorced” from their own parent. Just tossed aside.
I’m a big proponent of gently steering children towards understanding, compassion, empathy, acceptance, and forgiveness. Depending upon the situation, and how inquisitive the youngsters are, depends on how much needs to be, or should be, shared. It’s a tricky landscape, especially when the LBS is freshly hurt, like the kids are.
I was particularly fortunate to find forgiveness rather quickly, along with understanding and compassion. I encouraged those lessons with my kids, having many conversations with them. And I’m a pretty hopeful empathic optimistic guy, so they got lots of that too.
Like I said, I was fortunate with what was placed in my path after bomb drop. A lot of fantastic information and lessons blessed upon me.
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