Oh DejaVu, that sounds really tough. When it rains, it pours.
Getting older is certainly a wake up call. People who used to seem like superheroes suddenly becoming weak and ill makes you question your own mortality.
You’re a good person. Seeing the empathy you have for your XH is remarkable after everything that happened.
I think the best way to support him would be to refer him to others, like his friends/family or professional help.
You helping him out, as much as it’s from a good heart and motivation, is a potential problem if feelings start getting involved. I’d steer clear of being involved too much.
