You were absolutely right, he did go back to pushing me away pretty quickly.
H approached me angrily twice since then with a lot of garbage from the past, blaming me for everything he's doing and stating that all of my changes are just temporary. I made the mistake of rising to his bait and defending myself a couple of times, although I knew better. So, he left on the trip with the kids on a rather sour note. I knew he wanted to leave on a sour note in order to justify what he's doing, and I let my indignation get the best of me anyway. Sigh.
I suppose it's a new day now. Trying to give myself grace for being a work in progress. Refocusing on detaching.
H 41 W 36 D16 S15--my stepchildren D11--biological M 6, T 13 Bomb/EA 1/19/23 Separated but living together