I am thankful that D is doing so well these days. She has chosen to spend a bit more time with W recently and I believe that is healthy for both of them. I’m being neutrally supportive of their relationship. Not taking responsibility to facilitate and not blocking. Not bad-talking W. And I’m here for D and honor her as a young woman with her own priorities and choices about what kind of a relationship she chooses with each of us parents.
Yesterday on the drive home with S from our day in the mountains, I initiated a conversation to express my hopes that S and his mom have a healthy positive relationship. I said that he has choice in how and when he interacts with her just as he does with me. I told him that I want him to know that she loves him and also that I am doing well. I also let him know that I want him to be free to share his feelings honestly with each of us. He said thanks and did not choose to continue the conversation but it was interesting (it’s a long drive) to me that he initiated lots of discussion with me talking warmly about our family (siblings and extended family members) and discussed a lot of what he values in family relationships and friendships. S is a fine young man with maturity, convictions and integrity and an honor to me. He is also very respectful and affectionate towards grandparents and also towards grandparents his close friends.
W didn’t come up in conversation at any other point during the day. I enjoyed an incredible day together with my son doing one of the things we love.
