I seem to have done it so now for an update... I promise I am hearing what advice is being given to both me and others but suspect I'm a slow learner! I've found the past few days really difficult. I'm not having contact with H but he's messaging both S & D and saw D today. She came home in floods of tears and I'm so angry. I've done everything I can to put him in a positive light and encourage them meeting but when he took D for a coffee today, she said he was cold, detached and sly. She said he evaded her questions and seemed in a good place and like he couldn't care less that he has planted a bomb of devastation in everyone else's lives. She asked him why he hadn't responded to her messages and he said he didn't want to! I really want to message him calling him out for his behaviour but know that's the wrong thing to do. D challenged him on the impact of his affair and the fact he continues to see OW (I did not tell her to do this)& he said his behaviour was unforgiveable. I sort of think he is wanting me to push for divorce so he doesn't need to make a decision (I won't give him the satisfaction of doing this). He told D his head was in a mist and he couldn't think straight. Poor him! I have to pick up all the pieces & try and rebuild D from her heart being broken. S (19) was furious when he got home and saw his sister upset. He left the house to go to the gym & called his dad and told him he was selfish and thoughtless amongst a number of choice words. I don't know whether to try and stop S from doing this and try and smooth things or just let him get it off his chest. Feeling like I'm on an extreme roller coaster of emotions and struggling to see a way forward. Trying to detach but definitely not mastered this skill yet.
