What Kitti said is so important (and true). We have to grow, we have no choice in the matter. Our S's have just kept running. Mr.W had Gary, some H's have ow. Not much in the way of "growing" help.
You need patience for a little while longer. You asked tough questions, and Mr. W knows you are not going to go away, disappear, or any other vanishing act until you have the answers. Patience!!!!!!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.