You did really well, girl! I agree, after all this time, you're not only entitled to have it all released, but to receive the gift of the listening and seeing that clearly took place in this conversation.
Not that it makes it easier.
You sure do ask the tough questions... but I think he's known this for some time, too. I'm glad that he's building the stamina to begin to answer them.
You know, what you posted over on my thread was not the only similarity in the conversations we have had. Our sitches may be different, but so much of what Mr. W is sharing now is what my H has shared with me as well.
This IS how they feel. This IS what they're going through. And they haven't found the resources we have had to drag our own butts through it all (my H has had OW and MIL, for god sakes!).
They don't know the answers, or even where to begin to find them. I think even admitting that is not easy. And going in there looking for them is a risk-- painful, worthwile, but a risk nonetheless.
It seems to me that it's a risk that Mr. W may be willing to take. If sending you flowers "felt good"... how much more could he feel by continuing to take similar steps?
I agree with Kitti... a bit more patience cannot hurt you now, Betsey.
I'm glad that he's building the stamina to begin to answer them.
