Morning everyone. Hope you are all OK. I 'm a bit confused and just thought I'd check in. H moved out a week ago. I've had no contact but D has been messaging him. I know he sees OW at the weekend when her kids are with their dad. During this time, he's not responded to D's messages promptly & any replies have been one word answers. She was upset last night thinking he no longer loved her & I encouraged her to call him. When she rang, she was worried. Said he kept saying how he'd let everyone down, he was a terrible dad, husband, friend. He asked what he could do to make it easier for her & she just said she wants him to want to be with her. He (again) expressed regret, wished he'd gone to marriage counselling when I previously suggested it (pre affair). He asked her to tell me he is thinking about me all the time. I believe he is still consumed by the affair & all the excitement this brings but wondered how I deal with this info? My gut tells me he has been backed into a corner and doesn't know which way to turn. He wants us but also wants the OW & doesn't want to upset her. Do I trust the process, which definitely feels counter intuitive. Everything in my heart is pulling me to reach out to him. I am avoiding doing this and plan to continue but am I giving the OW time to set her store with my husband while I sit back and appear not to care? I'm so confused. I'm also worried that he is depressed and may find himself in a terrible situation albeit of his own doing. I still really love him & want him to be well (with or without me).
Last edited by DnJ; 03/06/2302:40 PM. Reason: Corrected typos.
