Marching in limbo with MLC H (3)

[DnJ]

Hello M

Please don’t borrow trouble. Worrying why H is seeking a conversation is nonproductive. Fear breeds fear. It steals your time. It steals your present. (((Hugs)))

I think my approach will be to be direct and say that I still don't agree with this divorce because we haven't exhausted all options for repair. I will say that half of the complaints he had about the marriage can be easily addressed. The other half doesn't make sense to me (such as his blaming me for him not clearing out the freezer), and I'll ask him to explain more. Then I'll reflect his explanation back to him both so he can see I'm listening and also so he can hear what he's saying.

Do be strong. And since you have been given an option, schedule a convenient time for yourself.

I’d not take the above approach. Let H lead. H might have an entirely different conversation or reason for asking to speak with you. If he does bring up D, simply ask him what his proposal is. And listen to what he has to say.

You’ve already told him you don’t want a D. A few times. Your silence to his latest will sound a lot different to him I’d suspect. 180s are powerful when they are sincere.

I don't want to D.

Then don’t. Just listen to what he has to say. Let him push this thing along. Let him own it.

You don’t place barricades along the path, yet you don’t pave the road for him either.

my anemia is improving but it turns out the cause could be something that might require an invasive procedure. So health management is still my top priority.

Absolutely! Your top priority is you!

D