It’s all about the kids now and how I can be their lighthouse. As much as I am theirs, they are my port in the storm. Maybe one day I can come out the other side. The kids are setting up our movie night and they want an all nighter. We still do the same ritual that we have done since they were very little - making pallets on the floor, popcorn, and movies. They are my life.
One day you will come out the other side. Matter fact you are already working on this.
I hope movie night went great. Once me and my kids get the movie picked it’s clear sailing from there.
Today ground yourself and know all the unknowns will work themselves out. Yesterday I had to do two mile walks twice to deal with my wondering mind. It works.
I have been reading up on gratitude and how it’s a learned behavior it’s not something hardwired into our bodies. Unlike negative thoughts which is something that’s hardwired into our body from our ancestries. And that gratitude relieves stress and anxiety and makes us happy. They had an exercise that a person could do called gratitude check. you could do by yourself or with someone else. I started doing it with my kids. if any of us start saying negative things someone can say gratitude check to the person and that person has to list 10 things that they are grateful for and specifics about it. It’s a fun activity. My daughter loves it and I actually feel really good after doing it. something to consider with your kids or yourself. Some things that I was grateful for yesterday was a beautiful day for a walk in the wilderness with my my dog that’s been by my side through this, my new shoes that made my feet feel so good when I was walking. My counselor that every week tells me how great I’m doing and reminds me how much I have improved, how much this forum has helped me when I don’t know what to do so I just get online and read, write/journal, receive advice from such wonderful people I’ve never met before, the nice meal I had for lunch at one of my favorite restaurants how good that food was, etc..
Originally Posted by JllyRgrs
The question was put to me about if affairs are deal breakers. I’ve thought about that and have come to the conclusion that they are. This isn’t the first trip out there she has done, this makes number five.
Here were some recommended books on this forum for Infidelity:
"NOT Just Friends," by Glass.
"Surviving an Affair," by Harley.
"After the Affair," by Janice Spring.
Please take anything I say here or leave it. Just someone that care’s, definitely is not a SME in this area and trying to help.
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
