Well, last night was something else. The kids were FaceTiming her while she was in her hotel room and we heard a man’s voice and a quick “oh s***” before silence. When they asked who it was she said it was the tv. Yeah, right. I think the kids bought it as they didn’t say anything but “oh, ok.” But I didn’t.
You have 100's of choices on what to do. Anywhere from ignoring to doing something that land you in jail. The best choices is in the middle someplace. If you play chess, you will know there is always a best move, some good moves, some bad moves, and some blunders. I believe the two extremes are both blunders. As far as the best move, MWD is our expert, but she doesn't post much anymore. You have to figure some good choices from the input from us (if that is what you want).
My understanding is woman can't be attracted to a man that they do not respect. So if your goal is to attract your wife back from this OM, then it is important to gain her respect during this. Most likely requiring lots of changes in the way interact with her. Will most likely feel uncomfortable for you at first as well.
My understanding is also that we men are the "protectors" of our families. Hindsight may give you some insight into some ignorance on your part. Most here have done a poor job at protecting the R during the marriage, myself included. There are good ways and bad ways to go about this going forward.
Anyway, how's the MBR coming alone?
Enjoy the weekend.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
