Hold steady.

Keep the focus on yourself. You're already seeing the dividends in peace of mind and making new memories with your children.

Take the time to sit quietly. The answers will come to you.

Don't think ahead beyond one week. Anything else is too overwhelming, especially at the very beginning.

You can't stop, change or interrupt your spouse's current trajectory.

You can become the partner your spouse would be a fool to leave.

Continue to focus on becoming that partner.


In case no one has told you yet, you're doing great!!!!

Last edited by bttrfly; 03/03/23 08:58 AM.
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver