Sounds to me like you are doing well, I’m just catching up on the back end so bear with me. Good job on the redecorating as it will make things easier. Sort of breathes a new life into the place and helps break his hold on it. All yours. As for his bagged clothes, he needs to get them. You aren’t his storage - let him know he has a certain amount of time to get his stuff or it will be sold/donated/burned/etc. This is for you, not him. However, don’t use that as an excuse to see him. A very good friend of mine went through a bad divorce and he left her stuff on there porch so he wouldn’t have to see her. She knew he meant it and got the stuff. Oh, and change the locks.
It may not seem like it, but you are doing well. It will get easier even if all you see are storm clouds. You got this.
