Hi Rockon, thanks for asking. At times lots of anxiety about the unknown. I have been working on being mindful of right now. Knowing that I’m ok now. And knowing that the unknown will work itself out. I keep telling myself that having fear is OK, but it’s not gonna make my decisions. It will never be in the driver seat. I will always be driving and making the decisions. I don’t want to be fearless, people that are fearless are sociopaths. 🤪 I got to accept what’s happening in my life and open my eyes to it.
My W will be going over some options for our assets/finances tomorrow. My hope is that they are not too far off of what I would agree with and that one of the options will work and we just tweak it a little bit so than I’ll present that to my attorney and go from there. The way she has just totally moved on and by me detaching and doing a 180. There’s nothing really left. I still believe if she wanted to reconcile I would do it under certain circumstances but right now I don’t have any feelings for her anymore. I still love the idea of a marriage and everything that’s about it. Having someone there every night, having someone there when we go out and do activities with friends, having someone there when you need them and to help raise your kids.
my kids are great. I love them so much and I’m so proud of them.
With D11 i’ve been really working hard giving her more control and giving her choices vs telling her to do things. Like the other night, I gave her a choice to unload the dishwasher now or after supper. She liked this and said that I want to do it after supper. simple but it worked. She is in more control and making decisions which will then give her more self-esteem and and independence And builds our relationship. I’m learning this from a book called love and logic parenting.
With S13 I feel right now he really needs a sense of security and I am making sure that I am there for him. Basically every night we hang out in my room and he does his homework or he reads and I read. If there’s a sporting event on TV will have that on too. last night when we were done reading and he was leaving my room. I made sure that I told him how much I appreciate his time and how much I love him and how thankful I was able to spend time with him. he said that he was grateful for being able to spend time with me too. Plus, our two dogs are in there for comic relief
I’m going for a walk at lunch today with a friend that’s also going through a divorce. he is really struggling with the dividing of assets and finances and scheduling of kids with his wife that moved out. at times I have to tell him that I want to talk about other things besides divorce because I’m sick of thinking about it. Overall we we help each other out and I get outside in nature getting exercise.
Job is going great too. Thankfully, I am excelling at my career right now.
I hope everyone is is enjoying what they’re doing now and knowing right now you are OK. 😀
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
