Thanks for wise words DnJ, Joseph & JllyRgrs

Originally Posted by Rockon
How are you doing MA?
I'm doing OK thanks Rockon. It feels easier with him not being here. I think the fear was driven by the uncertainty of whether he would stay or go. Now the inevitable has happened, I sort of know where I stand. I'm still not convinced by the IC (I'm a Psychotherapist myself so struggle a bit with being on the receiving end!). What I will say about the IC, is that it is opening my eyes to how much alcohol was the third partner in our relationship & that has made me unhappy for a long time. I've got my parents coming to stay at the weekend and they're helping me decorate the living room. D and I have started clearing the spare room where he was sleeping. He left all his summer clothes in the wardrobe and I've bagged these up. D spoke to him yesterday & he was annoyed that these weren't left hanging in the wardrobe. She just said we had plans for the room. I flit between what the function is of what I'm doing. Whether it is to get some response from him or if its to help me and the kids move on? However, I think I'm spending a lot more time thinking about doing the latter, which is good. I'm walking every night and think this really helps with my mood (skin is also looking quite glowy!) Thanks for the check in.


H - 52 Me -53
M - 20yrs T - 26 yrs
S 19, D 16