What a pleasant surprise! I was thinking about you last week and wondering how you and your sons are doing. I can't believe that your sons are just about grown up. Then again, it's been a while since your xh went on the lam.
He still doesn't get it about the damage he has created not only to the marriage, you and most importantly to your sons. Maybe he still thinks of them as young boys and not young men. Time does tend to stand still for them and if and when they wake up, they can't believe their children are all grown up, off the college and possibly even working in the real world.
I think he stills feels a bit left out, and in some ways, feels sorry for him. Especially after reading his comment about friends and no one to spit on him if he were on fire.
I hope that you are still walking and enjoying life to the fullest. You had a rough time of it when he was living in the "dorm" room and that infamous Christmas tree.
Your sons know that you are the "safe" and "reliable" one in the family who will always be there for them.
Please take care of yourself. You have so much to be proud of and most importantly, proud of the way that you have handled yourself throughout the entire ordeal.
Don't be a stranger. Please stop back by real soon.
Last edited by job; 02/28/2305:05 PM. Reason: removed my comment about my xh's recent apology
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
