Well, he moves out tomorrow. I don't know how I feel, probably a bit numb and worn out with it all. I think I've been in fear mode and now the thing I was fearful of is happening (albeit by my own making). Had IC today and said my boundary had to be that if he wanted to be with OW then he needed to move out. I couldn't/ can't cope with H saying he's off to hers whilst being under our roof. Counsellor brought up about his alcohol use and also asked me to think about what other boundaries I need if we ever did move towards R. Definitely not having any talks with husband about this. My current feelings are that he has hurt and used me enough. Not sure there is any coming back from it. I know I'll be ok if that is the case, I just don't want it to be.
I'm not sure of next steps from here. Our S(19) has told him he doesn't want to see him other than at football game. D16 is trying to pin him down to regular contact but he's avoiding it. Do I just leave her to sort this with him? I'd prefer to go radio silent to give me a chance of recovery and fully detaching but am also worried that he won't arrange to meet with her & this would break her heart. He really has become a different man. I don't recognize him at all and have no desire to spend time with him like this.
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