“ Let me ask everyone a question: for those of you who’ve had spouse that cheated, how did you react? And how did your family react at the news of BD? I honestly don’t know how I’d react if it came to light that she was seeing someone…and I’m not sure I would tell my family about that part”
I addressed it directly and calmly with W right away upon my suspicions. She said she was not ready to talk about it. I voiced my anger safely and calmly and that I needed to talk about it and for it to stop immediately. Explained that I was not ok with any infidelity, cheating or affairs and that I would be safe to talk with her about what is going on.
W moved out and I made efforts in our R, including some pursuit but then learned to work on detachment and looking after myself.
I have not told any of my family about the cheating and not any of our kids. Our kids are all having a difficult time with W leaving and their respective R’s with her.
