I guess it terrifies me because it seems so final. I love him with all my heart and even worse, I can't stand the thought of my kids going through this. My own parent's divorce left me scarred my entire life... I'm begging God every day to not let that happen to my kids. They are so secure right now and he is about to rip everything out from under them.
Rejoice two things.
One, divorce isn't final. No more final than marriage is. Lots of divorced couples end up getting back together. The problem with being terrified of it is that fear, not strength, informs your decisions. Fear is never a good reason to do something or not do something.
Second, moving towards divorce is sometimes the only way to bust it! I know that is counterintuitive but I can vouch for it. It wasn't until I embraced moving towards divorce that my wife started to question it herself. After insisting that divorce was what she wanted, no questions asked.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
