Originally Posted by Rockon And I’m enjoying life without her too.
Tell us more about this Rock. The newbies need to read it and the rest of us would like to know too
So, I have come to appreciate the gift of time and space. At BD I really didn’t get it and I was in fight/flight mode and disoriented trying to seize what I was losing. A lot of pursuit. I have learned that I need to be settled peaceful and well. I have been working on this for months and months but Honestly, it has been going better for me since just before Christmas. My friends and family are noticing and W has been commenting several times how much she is enjoying doing things together and all the things I am doing for us to have peace and fun.
I am paying attention to this and doing more of what is working while staying on track to do it for me. And I realize that I really like myself so I enjoy my time away from her. I like having days of no contact with her. I question my motives before reaching out and have eliminated so much unnecessary and unhelpful smothering behaviours. And then I don get tossed around like a yo yo as much in my emotions.
