And from time to time she has a big reaction to me, vents. I listen don’t argue and ask her at times to tell me more and she does. I might say I can see you’re upset or I hear …
Validation is important, especially to a spouse who may have felt you didn't really listen to them for years prior to BD. Not saying that's one of her complaints, but if it is, great 180 there.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I am standing up for myself well if she gets disrespectful, i speak up and say I need to be treated with respect. This is more of an 180.
Excellent! Boundaries are for you, not just her, and standing up for yourself is definitely a boundary. It gets attention, and is remembered.
Originally Posted by Rockon
And I’m enjoying life without her too.
Tell us more about this Rock. The newbies need to read it and the rest of us would like to know too.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
