How was breakfast with your Mom? Did you set, or mention, a follow up get together? I found best intentions need to be scheduled. If I left the supper and movie nights with my Mom to fate, there’d be far less of them. My schedule gets filled up. So, I need to ensure I fit in that which is important. The big rocks first. The little sand-type stuff will filter in. However, if I filled my time with the sand first, I ain’t getting any rocks into my schedule.
Originally Posted by MikeP
Back to the subject at hand-anger. The hardest thing about being angry is the guilt. How can I be so mad at someone I still love so much. Causes me to question if I really do love her that much. My heart says yes. My mind questions that because of my anger.
Love is a strong passion. Which will inspire other strong passionate feelings, including anger. You can be so mad, because you do love her.
Consider a few things: Are you mad at her? Her the person? Or are you mad at what she did? Or is doing? OR are you mad at what is presently lost or changing in your life? The security, family, and such.
Anger is a normal grief response. I realized if my W had died in some accident, I’d have similar mad feelings, and she’d not be the cause for she’d have not done anything. Therefore, my angry feelings, my love, all my feelings, are mine. Born within me.
Anger is an outward expression of one’s grief. When that expression turns inward, that’s depression.
Your heart says yes. Your mind questions. It’s normal and part of the path. You’re doing fine man.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
