Your response, “do you think that’s best?” and then leaving before she can even answer will likely just get her more upset. You didn’t listen to her, or hear her reasoning, or validate her concerns/feelings, just said your view and left.
It is true that you don’t want to start or get dragged into relationship talks when things are off the rails. Usually the leaving spouse uses such conversations to further their justifications. Realize she is blaming you and the relationship, so talking about it reinforces her ideas for leaving.
However, if she wants to say something, do listen. Let her speak. Validate her view. Not promote your’s. Apologize where it is appropriate. You don’t be a doormat and get walked all over either. There is a validation thread with good information (link is in the welcoming post).
That is if she is speaking. If she is simply disrespecting you, that’s a different kettle of fish. Then boundaries come into play. At the moment, and with what you shared, it doesn’t sound like that is the case.
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Hi - thanks for the reply. In hindsight, maybe leaving before she could answer want my best course of action. I wasn’t thinking clearly, I suppose. I just wanted out.
I went down to my favorite fishing spot but never got out of my Jeep. I spent a bit of time reading the suggestions and other posts. As has been said so many times in other threads, dwelling does no good and certainly not on my part. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond!
