Honestly I'm so lost and depressed and anxious that I just obsess and hurt most of the day. I barely know what I'm doing anymore. Everything is confusing and overwhelming and painful. I am going to work harder at getting back to me. I'm going out the next three nights. I'm going to get a couple of tattoos that I've been wanting. You are right.
Something you will hear repeatedly is to exercise. I’ll say again, get out and exercise daily. Multiple times daily if you can. Walking counts, going for a long walk helps me even when things seem ok. Strenuous exercise is better. It’s easier to quiet the voices in your head if you are struggling to breathe 😁. I’m still new to this, 10ish months in, so I’m no expert. I can tell you that I remember exactly how it felt in the beginning. I thought I would go crazy. I didn’t and things got better, slowly. I am in a better place than a lot of folks but that doesn’t mean it was or is easy for me. You will probably get tired of being told to GAL,180, etc. It’s understandable because it seems counterintuitive. It works. I’ve gone backwards the last few weeks because I haven’t followed the advice given here. The difference is like night and day. Before I found this site I was a miserable mess. DBing helps us survive the insanity. Might not save our marriage, that’s ok. It saves us, helps us move forward one way or another. I’m sorry you’re going through. We’re all pulling for you.
