Postcards from the Island of Misfit Toys ...

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bttrfly,

I'm on two sites. The paid site is definitely a higher caliber of person, imho, although I do like certain features on the other site.

Which sites? Which site did you find better, and what were the pros/cons?

* Men are like buses. There's a new one every 5 minutes. I may not want to ride that bus/take that trip, but that does not negate there being more opportunities every day.

Not sure I like that analogy as a man lol, but glad you're finding plenty of options. All I'd say is if you do want to make a connection don't let the number of options cause you to discard the options so casually...getting caught up in the paradox of choice.

Which, if you think about it, is really actually quite sad. So many lonely people looking to meet other people. Our society is pretty isolating and CV19 did nothing except make that more pronounced.

I think it is sad. There are a lot of lonely people out there who would love to make a connection, and it seems like our society is going the wrong way there.

* I've found this to be a good way for me to practice getting my groove back, aka talking to men who are potential romantic interests. After 34 years of not doing that, believe me the practice is welcome, lol.

My buddy tells me to open up and just go out with people and have fun and practice. Gotta knock that rust off lol

* I'm really pleased with my vetting process. My list of swipe left reasons may seem too long for some reading here but it works well for me and is true to my values and goals, short and long-term.

They did come off as overly selective to me, but hey if you have options and it's working for you...

* I've met one person who I think is worth getting to know better. I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket at this point, so there may be more meet ups/dates in my future with others.

Only one? Seems like going through all that there would be at least a couple you'd go out on a date with.

Overall, I think the experience has been a positive one.

Glad to hear it.

Separate from the OLD issue. I'm again giving thought to an annulment. I still find myself returning from time to time to the articles I've found online outlining what qualifies as an annulment in a Catholic marriage. I believe mine qualifies for a couple of reasons I won't go into here. That knowledge doesn't make me feel that our D was inevitable, but it does give me comfort when I think about how long we lasted as a couple, and gives me a lot to think about vis a vis any future relationships. I've talked to our parish priest (a long-time family friend who had a close relationship with my parents, Mom especially). His advice stands - don't rush to an annulment unless you meet someone you want to get serious about. I haven't met anyone, but know that the option is always there if I want it, from which I derive a lot of peace.

I'm surprised to hear that. Weren't you on a another poster's thread awhile back (maybe Drh2001 or ScottBs?), talking about how difficult the annulment process is and not to pursue it? Or perhaps I'm thinking of someone else. Anyway...good for you. Hope it brings you more closure/peace if you decide to pursue it futher.