40 you're going to do what you want regardless of what anyone says, and that's absolutely your right and prerogative. Super G and K have made some excellent points for you to factor in as you're making a decision.
I was talking to a friend this morning who cited an article which states that people should refrain from dating for 18 months post D.
Read the board. Specifically this forum will give you good insight into what happens when people rush from D to a new relationship.
What caught my attention and what I would want clarification on is how much time elapsed between her ending her abusive marriage and starting up dating the abusive BF, and again how much time elapsed between her ending that, moving to your neighborhood and starting the dating dance with you. The answers will give you some more information upon which to base your decisions.
Yeah, anyone our age who hasn't been in a cryogenic freeze for 30 years has baggage. The point is, are we talking carry on, or full blown check in and waayyyyyy over the legal weight limit so the plane's gonna go down on take off.
I'm in no way saying she's responsible for being abused. I am saying she's the common denominator in both those relationships. Re-read K's post above.
She's not the only fish in the sea. She's telling you she's not ready for a relationship, which is insightful on her part. Pay attention to that. Pay very very close attention to that. Re-read G's post above.
Go on your long business trip; keep all your options - and your eyes - wide open, is my best advice.
Hey, I truly do read and take notes.. I know she left the marriage a little over 4 years ago. So, with her state Divorce was within 6 months due to circumstance. Police reports, etc, I imagine the Judge did it quick.. Second relationship was to be honest, about 2 years after. Hard to honestly nail it down. I know little of it. It may have been a rebound gone bad. I can not tell you specifics. Moving to my neighborhood was due to better , bigger home, location. Not to get away from the guy. Its not very far away. Her telling me is great. She is being honest. Cant ask for much more. When I left for this travel job, we had some drinks the night before I left, had a good time, just talking about stuff in general.. Running out of stuff to talk about, lol. But, she did say, she really enjoyed time together. And not sure why, but did say she renewed her lease on the house. On a side note, I need to reiterate, I am person that for many years was always in a rush to meet and move with a women. That is due to the Navy and travel. Never had the luxury of being settled in one area for long at all.. So, I am a shaker and a mover. Thats one reason I excelled at Recruiting and other similar jobs in the Navy. Here is something I need to ask. Since she told me she is not ready, being honest, yet wants to hang out is that strictly going to be a friendship. She damn well knows what mine were.
