Mach's post is excellent advice for both brand newbies like yourself, JR, but also people who are struggling some months post BD ... take it to heart because it's DB gold platinum.

Last edited by bttrfly; 02/22/23 09:05 PM.
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver