Maybe if I had payed attention better I’d have seen the signs. I don’t know. She started getting more distant in the last few years. I just never put two and two together. I tried talking to her but she’d always say it was nothing. I thought maybe it was me, so I took her on dates again and weekend getaways. She’d act happy.
I’ve read a lot of threads on here. I’ve tried everything but nothing was right. One of my close friends suggested something I didn’t want to consider - to snoop. But that’s not me and I couldn’t bring myself to go down that rabbit hole. But two weeks ago I did. She has never changed the password on her old laptop and my curiosity got the best of me. In a hidden file I found many old pics of her and that guy. The last one which has a modified date of 3 weeks before. That sent me spiraling down into places I didn’t want to go. My mind went there.
The most recent of the pics was one of her, him, and her friend and husband labeled “the party, 2007.” It was that which made me start asking questions to her friend - I wisely didn’t mention finding the pictures. But they were tight lipped and I didn’t prod.
So what do I do? She still sleeps in the bed, but haven’t been intimate in a long time. It’s like she’s checked out. My concern is the kids. They are my world.
