DW, reading your post it seems inevitable that W will be moving out and proceeding with her D plans. I'm very sorry. The good news is I think you're handling the entire mess really well. You're focused on your side of the street, maintaining strong boundaries which honor your values and protecting yourself and your children.

I can't say enough about making sure that you don't get between the kids and their mom, while also keeping your focus on yourself and the personal changes you'd like to make within, so that you're a husband only a fool will leave.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver