Hi! Thanks for the reply! I do feel that there are great people here - I have read that after thread after thread. Some wonderful advice to be found and I’ve tried to follow it, but each day seems hopeless and that hallway is long with no doors in sight.

So here’s our story. I met my wife in 2009 when she moved back to Washington State. We are both prior military - Navy for me (hence my screen name) and she was Army, a Sgt as a matter of fact. A whirlwind romance - or so I thought - followed. We were married in 2010 and had a son that same year.

Funny how time allows one to pick out things that didn’t make sense back then. Looking back, things are starting to fall into place. Which leads me to thinking that there is someone else. Sigh. I guess this needs to be told, too.

When she was stationed in GA back in 2007 she met a guy who she was introduced to by one of her best friends (she’s still friends with her and her husband, and her husband was very good friends with the guy). She hasn’t talked much about that relationship as it was supposedly very painful for her. I was filled in on that part of her life by her friend and husband. Supposedly she was in love with this guy and they moved in together. Until one day her friend saw him at lunch with another woman. She was distraught and caught a transfer to another base.

I never had any concrete proof, but I do know that she and him follow each other on linked in. I’m not sure if they have talked but if I ever bring him up she denies it. A couple years ago she went on a business trip to GA (his state) and has a couple of times since.

I’ve seen her in her car talking on the phone and when she sees me coming to her she hangs up and said it was her friend. I had no reason to doubt then but maybe it wasn’t her friend. Maybe I should have asked.

It wasn’t long after her last business trip (her work has had her travel before, but not ever that far) that she said she wanted a divorce. Part of me is telling me it’s him she’s going to. I don’t think it’sa good idea to ask her work if those were real trips.

I’m at my wits end - what do I do? Thanks for listening.