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[Rejoice]

I have some questions for anyone willing to help me sort through my insane thoughts.

The sex for me was part of my 180. I had been so bitter with him before that I was withholding, cold, and angry pretty much all of the time. It's definitely been on my list of things that actually WORK, that plus positivity, confidence, and not bringing up anything about the R or OW.
I'm very very hesitant to stop something that seems to help us become so much closer when he was previously very cold, that seems like the opposite of the DB principles.

I have told him that I'm doing this on my terms, because I want sex, and that I'll be fine without him.

I'm incredibly torn on this topic. Please help.