Kind18 - I get that you're right. This wasn't an R conversation, in fact it was me asking him to leave but you are correct in that I am seeing my pattern too late & your pointers (whilst delivering some harsh realities) are helpful. He really is stalling on leaving & I get so anxious on a night when he's with her. I'm OK during the day & am engaging with others and moving towards my goals but when I'm in bed with my thoughts, it's hard. I practice mindfulness but always difficult when thoughts are coming through like a bullet train. I'll keep learning and trying to break these patterns
