New day 2

[Ready2Change]

I noticed some things that youngest D had written down on a piece of paper and left on the table after visiting with W:

W explained to D her reason for leaving me now - she was married and unhappy for 23 yrs and can’t be unhappy for another 23. She’s never had the opportunity to leave before with youngest D and youngest S struggling. W said “I need to be happy”
W feels she’s “terrible” around/to me.

W’s intention:
- be happy
- not trying to lose house/divide assets (contributing money monthly)
- still be in relationship with her kids (her favorite people)
- if D and S move out we’ll probably sell the house

Seems to me like a lot of heavy loaded info for W to lay on D. And W projecting her plans / outcomes.

I plan to continue to be there for D and have an open heart to support. Don’t plan to get in the way of or take responsibility for their relationship.

These are good opportunities to "clarify" things with D. More in the direction of how she should view the world. "Be happy by yourself" vs get married to be happy. All the relationship things you are learning now can be passed down to her.