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Originally Posted by Ginger1
….. and lord help me if I have to hear this woman say and explain “I am chaperoning my sons 5th grade dance tonight”

WE KNOW! WE HEARD IT 1000000000 times since Monday !!!!’

This indeed was meant to be on my thread.

But yea. I am losing my mind .

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and I forgot one crucial thing:

I ALWAYS swipe left on any man wearing Yankees gear.
You have a lot of swipe left criteria bttrfly - who would've thought winning an Emmy was a negative, like Mach40 not liking grad degrees - but I can support this one. Also NJ Devils gear ;-)

You would swipe sooooo hard right on me ! Devils gear and all

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Originally Posted by kml
the ex-SEAL should have been disqualified just on that basis. I worked in the Navy hospital here during medical school, and trust me, Navy SEALs are mostly really crazy.
I think the Jocko Willink break up advice videos are pretty on point, align with DB'ing principles, and are a good reinforcement. However at one point he says "Navy Seals have a pretty high divorce rate...like 90%". Kind of funny, but also maybe true.


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"UGH GETMEOUTTAHERE THAT'S WAY TOO MANY EXTRANEOUS PEOPLE!!!!!!"

Lol - this cracks me up that this was your response to 6 kids. MY response would be: "Is he super religious? Or does he have 3-6 baby mommas? Is he broke from paying for college for 6 kids? Will he even have any time to date?"

I think your screening process for OLD is pretty on point. However, the ex-SEAL should have been disqualified just on that basis. I worked in the Navy hospital here during medical school, and trust me, Navy SEALs are mostly really crazy.
I know right? I started hyperventilating as I did the math and kept adding friends and family members. Talk about crowd phobia, lololol

I also like your response. Best to leave the have kids response as "I'll tell you later" for more than three ...

I'm sure that my checklist is leaving some people saying I'm too picky. So what? I've always been picky. I know what works for me and what doesn't. I really don't want to waste my or anyone else's time if I know going in that for me it's not going to be a good fit, but I'll go anyway to have something to do. That's never been my style.

Now, sportsguy's allergic to cats. Not sure how bad. And I ain't getting rid of my cat. So we'll see how this goes. The point is we're both willing to explore it. Do they still prescribe Seldane, lololol?


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Originally Posted by Ginger1
Originally Posted by Ginger1
….. and lord help me if I have to hear this woman say and explain “I am chaperoning my sons 5th grade dance tonight”

WE KNOW! WE HEARD IT 1000000000 times since Monday !!!!’

This indeed was meant to be on my thread.

But yea. I am losing my mind .
i'm so sorry honey.

when is her vacation?


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Lol - just saw this meme: “If you’re single, try the dating apps . You’ll still be single, but you’ll appreciate it a lot more”.

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posting this because it might resonate with some. we all need to lead with compassion, imho.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, S.J.

thinking more deeply about this today.

what does it mean to be a spiritual being having a human experience?

how does this belief change the way we operate in the world?

how do we reconcile these two diametrically opposing views, being spiritual and having a human experience?

how does this belief change the way we interact with our fellow beings having a human experience?

can we bring more compassion to our fellow spiritual beings who are maybe struggling with this human experience?


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Originally Posted by bttrfly
posting this because it might resonate with some. we all need to lead with compassion, imho.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, S.J.


"Radical Forgiveness" dug deeper into this.

When you flip the way you see the world, everything changes.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
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I've added his writings to my reading list.


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oh and he's a great-great grand nephew of Voltaire, who's writings I also love.


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