G, I think your work is your refuge and a benefit has been positive adult interaction with your co-workers. Now your work has been infiltrated by Chatty Cathey. God save us all from the Chatty Catheys of this world!
I really like Job's suggestion of getting out for periodic breaks during the work day.
If it becomes too untenable, seek a transfer or new position.
xoxo
You nailed it, B. Work has always been my refugee for adult interaction, and now it makes me want to avoid it. It’s definitely taken a toll on me.
I’ve been considering all options. I’m not going to give up on this position quite yet. Doesn’t look good to do, especially barely 6 months in. I also can’t take a reduction in pay. So that’s out . It’s very complicated here. There are 3 of us in our office inside an office. The pervious 2 managers didn’t like eachother and everyone felt the tension. I don’t want that to happen again. I think the other one we share an office with is really nice, however, she hates her job and her counterpart and she’s losing her shot always complaining as well.
I can’t go to HR. She isn’t doing anything in violation of anything and I wouldn’t do that, because she isn’t a bad person. And in my hospital system you have to do something REALLY BAD for HR to pay attention. But I wouldn’t anyways.
I maybe go to my boss, who is actually friends with her, but i think sees what I’m dealing with and how I react, which is just shut up, because the 3 of us are often engaged in convo. I just want to know HOW to handle her.
But I can’t just complain, I have to figure out ways to make this tolerable for me.
So yes, I am going to take frequent walks. With better weather, I will be doing them outside, because I’m in an office in an office and none of them have windows. Windows are hard to come by in a hospital and it is affecting my mood. I put my air pods in, but she just keeps talking. It’s the best I can do for now.
I have been dealing with regular stresses forever on my own. It’s a norm for me. But I always did have the refuge of work. Now I need a refuge from work and this is what has me depressed.
