The stages are just a guideline. No two MLC's are the same. Each individual is unique, therefore, their MLC will be unique only to them. If you go to the resources thread, there are a number of threads that will assist you. Timelines...toss them out. It will take as long as it takes for your spouse to work through his/her issues. Some wake up and are either the same person or they could have retained some of the "crisis quirks" and some do not wake up. Some wake up in a couple of years, 7 years and some don't wake up at all. My xh finally woke up after 22 years and apologized for destroying the marriage and walking out on me.
Try to remember....the stages are a guideline, nothing more.
BTW, according to the rules/policies of this Board, we are not to share our personal information with each other, that includes, addresses, phone number and email addresses.
One last thing, please do not "over share" your personal information. We have people from all over the world that read the threads even though some of them may not be "members" of the Board.
As DNJ suggested, please start a thread and we will provide as much advice that we can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
