She is paying for everything about her trips. We moved to separate accounts at BD and she and I both contribute into mortgage etc. her trips are completely out of her money and I am firm about that. She has been quite reasonable about it. Though she is not contributing her fair share towards mortgage (discussed previously on these boards) it’s working out ok for now.
I don't know what the laws state in your jurisdiction, but in many places everything is marital assets (and debt) until there's a legal agreement/date of separation...whether the accounts/cards are separate or not. Unless you agree to that in negotiation, which who knows if she will. So talk to an L ASAP and protect yourself financially.
You need to read No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover and Love Must be Tough by James Dodson. I urge you to stop putting up with this disrespect. While she's flying over her affair partner...No more happy family weekends, no more pleasant conversations, no more nothing. Everything through the L.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
